by Sherlenne Tejerero
So you just got your heartbroken.
Breakups are never easy to deal with. It’s devastating and downright painful. This is one of the times where you’d just stay cooped up in your room, eating a tub of Ben and Jerry’s while listening to heart-wrenching tunes of Adele and Ed Sheeran on the loop. When your heart is broken into a million pieces, just the thought of doing anything than getting out of bed is really hard. However, to be able to move on, you have to get up, step outside, and spend some time away to get your mind off him/her to help things sting less. So we asked people where do they go after when they got their heartbroken.
- Mount Ulap in Itogon, Benguet
Getting over a breakup is never easy but so is hiking. For Mark, 27, mountains are his escape. “The mountains are where I always want to go back and rest my tired and sad being. Why? There is this power of nature or should I say, God’s creation in its full splendor that can easily make you feel how tiny and temporary your problems are. The picturesque view of the summit will clearly heal your heart and a perfect venue to rethink my life,” Mark says.
Go hike Mt. Ulap! Relate your roller coaster of emotions to the steep slopes and rough terrain of this mountain. Once you reached the summit, it will definitely give you the confidence that if you can climb this mountain, you can survive that heartbreak.
- Kota Beach in Santa Fe, Cebu
Ever watched the break-up themed film Camp Sawi? If yes, this beach may be familiar to you. It’s one of the best places to mend a broken heart. Besides, what’s a better cure for a broken heart than a relaxing beach getaway?
Jay, 24, shared that a beach trip in Kota is perfect for you to rethink and recover from a bitter breakup. “In a quiet place like Kota beach, you’ll get to internalize and reflect more deeply – what did you do and where did you go wrong for it [relationship] to come to an end,” says Jayson. The pristine waters, the powdery white sandbar of Kota Beach is the perfect beach-setting for some time to think about a love lost. When you’re done brooding by your lonesome, check out what the rest of the beach has to offer – from snorkeling to indulging yourself to food trips.
- National Planetarium
“I just go to to the [National] Planetarium. It helps me focus on self-reflection and come to terms with my heartbreak calmly. I don’t know about the others but looking at the stars helps a lot, atleast for me,” says Andrea, 22.
If you’re seeking a quiet and contemplative space to think after a heartbreak, museums or planetariums are the way to go.
- Spektral in Makati
We all have our own ways of coping up with heart breaks – be it from a breakup, or a personal hurdle in life. While there some who would prefer to go out of town and be adventurous, there are others, like Abby, 24, who prefer to just simply drink away the pain.
“Cliché as it may sound, but I prefer going in a bar. A quiet one like Spektral in Makati. Why? Because I’m more attuned with my thoughts when I’m drinking, and I get to rationalize with myself. I treat it as a session for closure and acceptance of painful reality I went through. And for a good plus, I go home and just sleep. No need to worry about remembering my ex before bed,” says Abby.
A bad breakup may leave you feel worthless and not good enough. Being surrounded by the people who reminds you of your worth when your self-esteem is at an all-time low will help you recover. Jona, 25, shares how being with her friends helps her get past through a terrible breakup.
“I’m a beach bum and I’ll always will be. But it’s [the beach] not my go-to when I’m at my lowest or I’m broken, it’ll always be my friends. Just a fun conversation with the people who appreciates me and reminds me I’m worth it over great food with beer on the side is what I would always prefer,” shared Jona.
True, break ups really hurt but there’s no other way to heal a broken heart but to let go and move forward. Instead of wallowing in self-pity and drowning your sorrows in a pint of ice cream, go out! It’s about time to focus on yourself and practice self-care – even if that means packing up your bags, jetting off to someplace new and exciting. Go out, wherever it is, and move on. Hopefully, it’ll help you believe that one day, you’ll find your own happy ending.